Many parents underestimate their value. Because of their own fears, insecurities, and issues, they get wounded and hurt – then they pull away and retreat into their own little world. The problem is, kids need you. They absolutely need you to stand firm – no matter how hard it is, or how hurt you are.
Of course, parents are people too. As people, they have all the same issues as everyone else. But their role as a parent is so much bigger than themselves – all parents need to stay in the game – no matter the cost. It is no longer a choice.
“It is no longer a choice.”
The other day I was talking to a friend who was sharing some struggles regarding his adult children. I listened, I didn’t try to fix, but I did make sure I understood the struggle. While I don’t have adult kids, I was once an adult who needed his Dad very much. I had done virtually everything I could to run away from my parents. I was obnoxious. I was a punk. I turned my back on their morals and standards. I didn’t call them very much. But I still needed them – especially my Dad.
This time of year we hear a lot of music that we don’t normally hear. Some of it isn’t actually Christmas music, but we only hear it during the holiday season. As I drove to work the other morning, a song came on the radio that stirred up those usual warm Christmastime feelings. It’s a very well written song, usually performed by Dean Martin and Doris Day. And then I listened to the words.
We’ve all been sick this week, but it has given me an opportunity to witness something powerful in action. That is, our kids need AND want us.
When it was my Wonderful Wife’s turn to be sick, she was holed up in the bedroom trying to sleep, recover, and chill. The kid’s thoughts were never far from her – they are used to having her around 24/7 and it is disconcerting to be disconnected from her.
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