Communication 101 – 10 Crucial Practices
Posted: February 13, 2012 Filed under: Parenting, Thoughts Leave a comment »
I remember a long time ago and being in a conversation that just made me squirm. Oh it was painful. I kept interrupting, interjecting, and trying to explain what was happening. My friend, a close friend, grew annoyed at my interjections. It made her mad. I was confused. I thought she loved me, I thought she cared, I just couldn’t understand why she was beating me up with all these words of complaint.
A few years later I took a communications class sponsored by my employer. It wasn’t a required class, but it was offered as a service to help us be happier, healthier employees. I learned much, but because I wasn’t in a relationship at the time, I didn’t have a way to practice these new found skills. But I did try applying them in other situations – with my Mom, friends, coworkers, etc.
Victimization
Posted: October 3, 2011 Filed under: Parenting, questions, Thoughts Leave a comment »
My parents were victims. My Dad shrugged it off (mostly) and moved on. My Mom never did. She lived a life of pain and depression, and shared her legacy of victimization.
She was a dream-killer, a spoil-sport, and a pessimist. She also had great love and in her desire to help herself, she helped many people. Unfortunately, she was never able to save herself.
Visionary, Perfectionist, OCD, or Control Freak?
Posted: September 24, 2011 Filed under: Parenting, questions, Thoughts 7 Comments »
After my last post, and some choice comments, I’ve been wondering why I just can’t leave well enough alone? Why can’t I just keep my head down, mouth shut, and avoid eye contact? To stop trying to make a difference – at this point in my life – seems like defeat.
So, it got me to thinking. Maybe I’m a control freak? Maybe the reason I try to change things is because I have control issues. Maybe I’m OCD – maybe I can’t leave well enough alone? Maybe I’m a perfectionist that can’t ignore less than perfect circumstances? Or maybe I’m a visionary, who sees things others can’t (or won’t) see, and wants to help people see the light? Read the rest of this entry »
