Betrayal
Posted: November 19, 2010 Filed under: Parenting, Thoughts 1 Comment »
Allowing ourselves to be intimate with another person exposes us to risk. It takes trust to be intimate, and trust can be betrayed. Whether family, friend, or one-night stand – we take a risk when we allow another into our hearts, our beds, or our lives. Betrayal is extremely hurtful – extremely!
Although I’ve spent almost half my life learning to deal with betrayal, I learned yesterday that I haven’t quite reached nirvana yet. In fact I have a long way to go.
For the past several years we’ve been trying to find a solution to my Dad’s housing needs. His health is deteriorating rapidly, he has very limited financial resources, and he is amazingly stubborn – and independent (did I mention stubbornly independent?)
It’s Not Just a Job, It’s an Adventure!
Posted: November 9, 2010 Filed under: Parenting, Spirituality, Thoughts 5 Comments »
You’ve heard it said, “Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad.” But is this a black and white issue? Are you either/or? Is it merely biological – or is there more to the story? I think there is more – much more.
As I walk through life and listen to the stories of others, I hear a lot of anger towards fathers. Men, women, kids, teens – a lot of people are very angry at their dads. Why is this? What causes all this anger? I believe it has a lot to do with expectations. We expect our fathers to be kind, honest, trustworthy, and present. But the fact of the matter is, fathers are broken humans – just like the rest of us. They fail, make mistakes, and rarely measure up to their potential. Our expectations lead us to premeditated resentments – that are too often realized.
